Instead of ML or REML, you can use the noniterative MIVQUE0 method to estimate G and R (Rao 1972; LaMotte 1973; Wolfinger, Tobias, and Sall 1994). In fact, by default PROC MIXED uses MIVQUE0 estimates ...
Davidian and Giltinan (1995) and Vonesh and Chinchilli (1997) provide good overviews as well as general theoretical developments and examples of nonlinear mixed models. Pinheiro and Bates (1995) is a ...